I know, I know - if you could easily leave, you probably wouldn’t be reading this. So ask yourself, “Would I expect a two-year-old to keep promises or remember to do chores, or be alone for more than a few minutes, or understand how to act at a formal gathering, or wait for anything, or do something that he or she didn’t want to do, or be at ease in new situations, or to go along with a change of plans?” Of course you wouldn’t. They often do not remember past emotions, thoughts, or behaviors, and they feel convinced that their present emotion will last forever. Only the specific emotions that BP/NPs are having in the present moment are real. They typically do not believe that anything or anyone in their world is permanent. In terms of emotional development, BP/NPs are more similar to two-year-olds than to adults. You’re not going to fix them.įrom Stop Caretaking the Borderline or Narcissist: And people with real NPD or BPD basically have the emotional development of a two-year-old. So what should you do if you find yourself being taken advantage of by a narcissist or borderline? (To learn how to deal with a psychopath, click here.) Because when very emotionally healthy people find themselves working for or romantically involved with a narcissist or borderline they usually say, “I’m outta here.” (And you will constantly feel needed because narcissists always need a cheerleader and borderlines are experts at creating new sources of stress for themselves.)Īnd you may have some self-esteem issues.
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